Dear Guides,
I’m watching my elderly relative go downhill in a nursing home, only perking up when I visit. How important is it that I try to spend more time with her?
Excerpt from Minda’s channeling on 6.9.2010:
Dear ones,
The elderly are on a timeline of their own. Actual moments, hours, weeks, months do not have the importance you may be attaching to them. Here is where the phrase “give or take a little” comes to the fore.
There is a wide range of possible moments to exit from the Earth experience, and it is not so precise as you are looking at it. If the person goes now or if they hang on for more months or years, it does not change tremendously their outcome and learning.
Yes, certainly if events occur, things shift for the soul. But it is a lot like when you are preparing something and have a number of tasks to accomplish. . . .
On the one hand, you may be thinking everything has to get done today (in this lifetime, before death), but maybe there are things that can be done on future occasions you can’t be aware of, or perhaps they don’t even need to be accomplished at all.
All this to say that your lives are much less driven by things you “should” and “need to” complete than you may be aware of.
When you decide how much to be involved in someone’s life, such as this elderly person, it is much more important to weigh the impact it has on your own sense of self than on theirs. Do you enjoy the meetings? Do you feel it is important for you to fulfill what you consider to be a choice you make because of your belief system? Do you feel a more whole and complete and fulfilled person by carrying out visits that you feel support your value system?
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We would love it if we could inspire you to cut yourselves some slack and reduce the expectations you place on yourselves to impact your world, your lives and those lives around you. Know that you will succeed in inner ways even more when you relieve the stress you place on yourselves to accomplish, achieve, be everything to everyone, etc.
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You life will develop its own vitality, which is much more important for you to achieve than attempting to affect others’ vitality.
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Channeling (c) 2010 Minda Bernstein
Painting (c) 2010 Julie Bernstein Engelmann
Painting title: Visiting the Elderly 6.9.2010
